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Welcome! My name is Ari, and this is my blog about becoming who you are meant to be. If you enjoy my insights, please subscribe to RSS of have my posts delivered to your e-mail. Thanks for visiting!
Thanks for stopping by. My name is Ari Koinuma.
(And for the week of July 27 — special hello to all new visitors from Blog-to-Show!)
The purpose of this web site is to help you heal and grow.
Particularly, we focus on the fascinating, deep and mysterious realm that is our mind. All of us fall somewhere within the spectrum of mental health and maturity. If your foundation is heavily damaged, you suffer from depression. On the other hand, if you are healthy, whole and mature, you may be on the exciting adventure of discovering and pushing your capability as a human being.
We are all on the journey of healing and growth to reach the pinnacle, self actualization. This is a state where your primary concern is realizing your potential as a human being. All your lower needs are no longer in your circle of concern and you are ready to unleash your most potent and powerful impact on the world. It’s a joyous and exciting state of being. You will feel so abundant that you feel your joy overflowing and filling up the world around you.
How do you get there? By taking small steps, healing our wounds, mending our brokenness, raising our inner children that got lost and stuck somewhere on your walk. Taking care of our needs for companionship and self-esteem. I myself have walked that path, and have observed others, and I am here to share what I learned.
These are the areas this site focus on:
- Realizing your potential: challenging you to be as good of a person as you can be.
- Relationships: particularly, romantic relationships and parenting. Being a steward of healing and growth to others around you, and let them be the same to you.
- Career/Vocation/Lifework: finding, pursuing and sustaining work that feed both you and the world.
- Depression: identify it, understand it, and heal from it.
- Society: how our personal growth impacts the greater whole, and vice versa.
And here is how I approach the challenge of healing and growing:
- Deep analysis of big problems: If there is a problem, I try to identify and cure the cause and not the symptoms. That sounds obvious but you’ll be surprised how many medical/healing and coach/mentor/growth professionals are caught up on fixing the surface. There are little techniques and tools that can make you life dramatically better — there is no question. But there are many other resources that excel in quick fixes. On this site I focus on life’s broader and bigger challenges.
- Solutions for Long-Term Growth over Short-Term Gain: Similarly, the solutions I propose may not appear to address the here-and-now problems, because they address the cause and not the symptoms. This bottom-up approach may seem irrelevant, impractical and ineffective at first. But once implemented, they have the potential to fix your problems once and for all, and allow you to progress to the higher plateau in your growth, never to regress again.
- Personal stories: This is where the rubber meets the road. My analysis of the problem and proposal for solutions are applied to real life. As the best expert on myself, I tell stories of my failures and triumphs to illustrate and draw lessons from them. Sometimes I use other people’s stories as well, when I have permission to do so or if the story is already public.
Suggested usage of this site:
- If your primary concern is growth, then I suggest you start first by looking at my definition of self actualization. It will give you an idea of the destination, what we’re trying to grow into.
- If your primary concern is healing, then a good place to start is my analysis of self-esteem. I believe that this is the root of 99% of the roadblocks you experience in your healing/growth process.
- If you don’t know what your goal in life is, I can tell you a good one to consider.
- Read my blog and subscribe to my feed (RSS or email), so you can walk with me as I look back on my healing process and chronicle my growth, offering insights along the way.
Thanks for visiting, and I hope you find this site useful.
May you make many steps forward in your walk to realize yourself.
