Welcome to OBV! Thanks for leaving a comment — I’m so glad you stumbled on this article, which is one of my favorites.

You are right that the layers are intertwined and overlapped, each affecting others — I didn’t mean to oversimplify the picture. That said, it helps to figure out how to address our wounds when we divide them into these areas. As a method that address some types of problem may not work for other areas.

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ari

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Thank you.

Thanks for taking the time to read this lengthy article.

You know, my father was an “accident,” too, an obvious one — he was 9 years younger than his closest sibling, and youngest of 5. He remembers being raised by the wife of his oldest brother, as his mom was too old and burdened to care for him herself.

Not being assured that you’re not a wanted existence can do the most terrible damage. Yet, that’s how most kids in the world feel. That’s part of the reason why I have dreams of adopting children, after we’re done making our own….

I’m glad you healed that wound. My dad did, too, eventually, though it took him a long, long time. He was a man of great potential, deeply compromised by emotional pain — some days, I mourn for his potential that remained unrealized to the end, but then I remember that he was happy when he died, so his life was a success.

I’m sure yours will be, too.
ari

I remember learning that I was an “uh-oh” (not planned) and I believe that was damaging to my self esteem. I used to think I was an “accident” in a way, but now I know I was not and that feels great. God wanted me to exist, so I am here. How he choose for me to exist is not important.

Jennifer´s last blog post..It’s Your Choice….