Good thoughts on failures! “But nowadays, I do the opposite. I pat myself on the back, eat my favorite snack, do something fun — I reward myself.

Why would I do that, when I messed up?

First, the sting of failure is punishment enough.”

Very well said. I’m a sulker too, it takes time for me to recover after a setback. I tend to withdraw and detach myself from others, so as to avoid more pain, but the more I escape from the hurt, the more it haunts me. It often paralyzes me to try again.

What pulls me though somehow is my relationship with God. If not for my faith, i would have really sank into a very deep depression.

Thanks for the uplifting words Ari!

>To fail for me was to gain something.

How true. We really ought to keep that in mind. If we learn from every mistake, we won’t make same mistakes again — so every mistake will be a new one, and we’ll learn more from it. That’ll make a very efficient journey!

ari

Thank you again for sharing.

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Thanks! Yeah, I think the growth mentality takes the pressure off of having to be right every time. You don’t have to be right every time. Rather, you can make a lot of things right. It’s an empowering thought.

ari

I think your “A well-lived life is one littered with countless failures and mistakes.” is great - and so true. We can paralyze ourselves if we worry too much about how things will work out - we need to see everything as a learning experience. I’ve had many projects not work out as I thought they would, but I gained skills along the way.

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Welcome to OBV! Yes, some of us are not particularly adept at switching our gears. We sulk because it’s hard to make our mind move on and focus on something else, especially when we are consumed by the feeling of let down.

So rewarding myself for failure was my strategy for not dwelling on the pain. I’m glad you got something out of it.

Keep in touch, I look forward to getting to know you.

ari

You think I’m timely with my posts? Well that’s good to hear — because I didn’t think so, myself. It’s not for the lack of material, but it’s more for the lack of time (or underdeveloped time management skills on my part) that I don’t post as often as I’d like to.

ari

Yes, I read Bamboo’s post, too. It’s funny that he and I were in synch with posting on the same issue at the same time.

I like your line “We don’t have time to dwell on our failures if the action is still going on.” How true!

ari

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