Wow, you put it better than I have. I love that quote.

I think becoming the person you want to find applies not just to soulmates but with friends and perhaps even jobs, too. It’s hard to embody something that is not fed from your surroundings — as you have to rely entirely on your inner eye to see yourself as such and use your own imagination and consciousness to apply it to yourself. It’s a concept I’m still trying to apply to myself, though it’s hard.
Thanks again for your comment.

ari

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Well, I didn’t mean to present my idea as a “law” — more like a recommendation or a best practice. So I’d neither surprised or offended to find exceptions. That said, I also don’t believe in luck, either — if you’re desiring something and not getting it, I tend to think that there is something in there that I’m not getting or learning. It’s like piecing a puzzle. You find your missing pieces, and eventually you make a complete picture. I’m not suggesting that you do this, but quickly based on what you’re saying — if you feel that you’re not in the right place and if finding the right person is very important, perhaps moving else where is not out of question. I can tell you that I went to college in Minnesota, but spent last 10 years in Texas, and just returned to Minnesota. In Texas I seldom saw girls I’d be attracted to, but back here I see more potential. I guess upper-Midwest girls are more to my liking. (I married one — what do you know)

Anyway, don’t lose hope! Let me know if there are any specific questions that you’d like a feedback on.

ari

Many of these life lessons, I have learned the hard way. For some, I really think I would have saved alot of time and heartache had someone put it to me like this. Others… well… some people just have to make their own mistakes, or they’ll never believe it. I am at point in my life where I’ll try just about anything, and I can put my pride aside. So I can honestly say that for me personally, I have tried all of these approaches, and so far, no luck.

Actually, I do think a large part of my problem is luck. I have plenty of girls over the last few years, since really coming into my own as a person, both financially, and emotionally. My town/state is just a really weird place when it comes to relationships, and to a lesser degree, people. When I get to travel for work, I see that not as many people are as immature or materialistic as where I currently am. There are very few women who are approachable here (when it comes to approaching total strangers) without a go-between unless you’re really flashing cash and bling. Or are incredibly handsome I suppose.

Anyway, that is another matter. For every rule there is an exception, and I feel, after many years of self-improvement and accessing my options, I feel right now, I’m just a big exception. Maybe with a little more work on myself, and being at the right place at the right time, I’ll meet someone. As a poker player, I know that when you are having a night where the cards just aren’t coming your way, all you can do is be patient, wait it out, and every now and then, make a move just to see what happens.

So thanks for the concern, and best of luck with your site. I may drop by from time to time.
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