Comments on: 7 Secrets That Can Help When You Are Depressed

By: Hidayati

Hidayati — Fri, 16 Apr 2010 16:05:37 +0000

Thank you for putting this up. There are times when I get overwhelmed by the things happening in my life. People I love -My parents - who make decisions for me without making me part of the decision process. The rational side of me completely understands they want me to live a good life and avoid the mistakes they have experienced. However,there is that other side of me that gets sad because they are not listening to me as a person and how I want to live my life.
It sucks when this sort of situation has to occur as it is a very narrow rope to balance myself on.
Thank you for putting up that post because I know it is good to dwell on these feelings of sadness because the other 90% of the times I am grateful with my life. It reminds me that I am just a mere human being. Nothing more nothing less. I am glad to find this article (Found your link through chris guillebeau post- you commented and left your link there)

By: Ari Koinuma

Ari Koinuma — Mon, 26 Jan 2009 15:39:31 +0000

Hi AJ,

Welcome to OBV! You make it sound easy, but I’m talking here about clinical depression — a mental habit so deeply ingrained in one’s psyche that you really can’t control it on your own. Be sure not to say that line to a person struggling with severe depression!
ari

By: AJ Kumar

AJ Kumar — Fri, 23 Jan 2009 17:25:16 +0000

I would say since you can control your feelings, choose not to be depressed

AJ Kumar

AJ Kumar´s last blog post..Courage. Do You Have it or Do You Want it?

By: Ari Koinuma

Ari Koinuma — Mon, 10 Nov 2008 03:16:49 +0000

Axel,

Welcome to OBV! Thanks for your comment. Absolutely, talking out your feelings to someone else helps in your healings. A listening friend can make a great difference — sometimes more than certified professionals.

Keep in touch, I look forward to getting to know you.

ari

By: axel g

axel g — Fri, 07 Nov 2008 11:34:46 +0000

That’s so true, there is a way out of the hopelessness…

Sharing your feelings and thoughts with someone you’re comfortable with, helps ease the pressure +_+

By: Ari Koinuma

Ari Koinuma — Wed, 29 Oct 2008 01:42:24 +0000

Hi Harmony,

Welcome to OBV! Thanks for honoring me with your comment.

Agreed — moving our body can be very helpful. That’s one tip I missed in this list. That said, I’ve seen a state where even that’s asking a lot — so it all depends on where the person is. On one hand, it’s important to immerse yourself into feeling the pain, but on the other hand, it’s good to get out, move your body and take a break.

ari

By: Harmony

Harmony — Tue, 28 Oct 2008 14:32:48 +0000

What a thoughtful and caring post. Thank you Ari. Sometimes, although depression brings a lot of weariness and you feel so sleepy, going for walks - getting fresh o2 to fill your lungs, moving the blood and allowing your natural mood enhancers to boost the emotional state through releasing powerful endorphins, can be a gentle boost. You may only start with walking around the block, and that is just fine! Harmony´s last blog post..Can You Trust Someone In Heaven?

By: Ari Koinuma

Ari Koinuma — Tue, 28 Oct 2008 01:57:56 +0000

Jennifer,

Yeah, sounds like we’re driving down the same path. I’ll be interested to see what you think of my piece on low self-esteem. It is my favorite post so far, and it was the most-read piece until this post took over.

ari

By: Ari Koinuma

Ari Koinuma — Tue, 28 Oct 2008 01:53:10 +0000

Hi Melinda,

Thanks for the affirmation! It means much to me, coming from a real psychologist.

ari

By: Jennifer

Jennifer — Mon, 27 Oct 2008 18:41:27 +0000

Your welcome Ari for catching that.

Yes, you are right about your number 2 thought. It goes deeper than just any ole’ purpose or plan we may conceive. It is more along what you are thinking of with our purpose for existence. When we see our lives as something bigger than ourselves then things start to make sense. I think we are thinking along the same lines here. In other words, I think that low self esteem is the root of a whole lot. But more importantly I have to ask why someone has low self esteem in the first place. I had not seen the article you referred to, but it looks like a great read that I will check out.

Thanks for your thoughts and discussion.

Jennifer´s last blog post..It’s Your Choice….