Comments on: Fear of Success: Why, and How to Beat It http://ourbestversion.com/2008/11/fear-of-success-why-and-how-to-beat-it/ Big Picture of Healing and Growth: from Depression to Self Actualization Mon, 15 Mar 2010 09:00:03 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.7 hourly 1 By: Ari Koinuma http://ourbestversion.com/2008/11/fear-of-success-why-and-how-to-beat-it/comment-page-1/#comment-1459 Ari Koinuma Fri, 02 Jan 2009 17:10:06 +0000 http://ourbestversion.com/?p=749#comment-1459 Hi Ira, Welcome to OBV! Sorry about the delay of this reply. Glad my piece shed some light for you. Keep in touch! I look forward to getting to know you. ari Hi Ira,

Welcome to OBV! Sorry about the delay of this reply. Glad my piece shed some light for you.

Keep in touch! I look forward to getting to know you.

ari

]]> By: Ira http://ourbestversion.com/2008/11/fear-of-success-why-and-how-to-beat-it/comment-page-1/#comment-1438 Ira Wed, 24 Dec 2008 07:23:22 +0000 http://ourbestversion.com/?p=749#comment-1438 I found this article by doing a google search on what does fear of success really mean? I never could fully understand it. Until now! Thank You so very much! The unknown = thoughts of fear, lack of control, failure and so much more. All the pieces fit together for me now - again Thank You! :) I found this article by doing a google search on what does fear of success really mean? I never could fully understand it. Until now! Thank You so very much! The unknown = thoughts of fear, lack of control, failure and so much more. All the pieces fit together for me now - again Thank You! :)

]]> By: Our Best Version | The 7 Keys to Breaking Bad Habits http://ourbestversion.com/2008/11/fear-of-success-why-and-how-to-beat-it/comment-page-1/#comment-1201 Our Best Version | The 7 Keys to Breaking Bad Habits Wed, 12 Nov 2008 23:26:37 +0000 http://ourbestversion.com/?p=749#comment-1201 [...] — not being properly stimulated regularly is a stressful state to your body.  This will help boost your internal resource in holding up a higher standard for [...] [...] — not being properly stimulated regularly is a stressful state to your body.  This will help boost your internal resource in holding up a higher standard for [...]

]]> By: Ari Koinuma http://ourbestversion.com/2008/11/fear-of-success-why-and-how-to-beat-it/comment-page-1/#comment-1166 Ari Koinuma Mon, 10 Nov 2008 03:09:39 +0000 http://ourbestversion.com/?p=749#comment-1166 Hey Mitch, Agreed. Taking a chance is important. Again, it's nice to practice on little ones to build up the courage to take big chances. ari Hey Mitch,

Agreed. Taking a chance is important. Again, it’s nice to practice on little ones to build up the courage to take big chances.

ari

]]> By: Mitch http://ourbestversion.com/2008/11/fear-of-success-why-and-how-to-beat-it/comment-page-1/#comment-1154 Mitch Thu, 06 Nov 2008 17:51:37 +0000 http://ourbestversion.com/?p=749#comment-1154 Very nice post, and if I can add one thing, I'd say "take a chance sometime". That's what all successful people have done in their lives and their businesses. <abbr><em>Mitch´s last blog post..<a href="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/ImJustSharing/~3/443831907/" rel="nofollow">Feeling Good Tonight</a></abbr></em> Very nice post, and if I can add one thing, I’d say “take a chance sometime”. That’s what all successful people have done in their lives and their businesses.

Mitch´s last blog post..Feeling Good Tonight

]]> By: Ari Koinuma http://ourbestversion.com/2008/11/fear-of-success-why-and-how-to-beat-it/comment-page-1/#comment-1141 Ari Koinuma Thu, 06 Nov 2008 14:40:27 +0000 http://ourbestversion.com/?p=749#comment-1141 Hi Evita, Welcome to OBV! Thanks for your comment. Well, as they say (I forget the exact quote), a familiar evil is better than an unknown one -- but is it, really? A familiar pain does not contain any potential for improvements. Like you said, change is what contains the chance to succeed. Keep in touch! I look forward to getting to know you. ari Hi Evita,

Welcome to OBV! Thanks for your comment.

Well, as they say (I forget the exact quote), a familiar evil is better than an unknown one — but is it, really? A familiar pain does not contain any potential for improvements. Like you said, change is what contains the chance to succeed.

Keep in touch! I look forward to getting to know you.

ari

]]> By: Ari Koinuma http://ourbestversion.com/2008/11/fear-of-success-why-and-how-to-beat-it/comment-page-1/#comment-1139 Ari Koinuma Thu, 06 Nov 2008 14:36:26 +0000 http://ourbestversion.com/?p=749#comment-1139 Hi Jennifer, Yeah, I get impatient, too. Like you said, I have no problem imagining/visualizing a better state -- so I want to get going fast. But often I find that while my conscious self is eager, I have underlying fears that hold me back, keep me from really believing in the change. Visualization can really bring those up to the fore -- even though you're imagining a better state, part of you is going "yeah, right, it'll never happen." That's the voice we need to quiet, and purge. And to me, the best way is to see something concrete and real, a real tangible success, on a regular basis. ari Hi Jennifer,

Yeah, I get impatient, too. Like you said, I have no problem imagining/visualizing a better state — so I want to get going fast. But often I find that while my conscious self is eager, I have underlying fears that hold me back, keep me from really believing in the change. Visualization can really bring those up to the fore — even though you’re imagining a better state, part of you is going “yeah, right, it’ll never happen.”

That’s the voice we need to quiet, and purge. And to me, the best way is to see something concrete and real, a real tangible success, on a regular basis.

ari

]]> By: Our Best Version | Are You Sabotaging Your Success? http://ourbestversion.com/2008/11/fear-of-success-why-and-how-to-beat-it/comment-page-1/#comment-1134 Our Best Version | Are You Sabotaging Your Success? Thu, 06 Nov 2008 00:17:10 +0000 http://ourbestversion.com/?p=749#comment-1134 [...] Our Best Version Big Picture of Healing and Growth: from Depression to Self Actualization « Fear of Success: Why, and How to Beat It [...] [...] Our Best Version Big Picture of Healing and Growth: from Depression to Self Actualization « Fear of Success: Why, and How to Beat It [...]

]]> By: Evita http://ourbestversion.com/2008/11/fear-of-success-why-and-how-to-beat-it/comment-page-1/#comment-1133 Evita Wed, 05 Nov 2008 22:29:21 +0000 http://ourbestversion.com/?p=749#comment-1133 Great article indeed Ari! In the past I may have thought "how crazy to be afraid of success" but today I realize that is a very valid fear in many. As you say we get used to the way things are and the greater fear takes over too, which is the fear of change. Once we overcome this though, I feel we are better equipped to handle any change in our life. <abbr><em>Evita´s last blog post..<a href="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/EvolvingBeings/~3/436374683/" rel="nofollow">Heroes of Healing: Helen Schucman and William Thetford</a></abbr></em> Great article indeed Ari!

In the past I may have thought “how crazy to be afraid of success” but today I realize that is a very valid fear in many.

As you say we get used to the way things are and the greater fear takes over too, which is the fear of change. Once we overcome this though, I feel we are better equipped to handle any change in our life.

Evita´s last blog post..Heroes of Healing: Helen Schucman and William Thetford

]]> By: Jennifer http://ourbestversion.com/2008/11/fear-of-success-why-and-how-to-beat-it/comment-page-1/#comment-1132 Jennifer Wed, 05 Nov 2008 19:14:44 +0000 http://ourbestversion.com/?p=749#comment-1132 Great post Ari. This makes sense. The ole' comfort zone - get's so many people probably most of us in so many ways we don't realize. Just like in SFT Awareness, many people choose not to go through the training or at least do the work because they can't fathom there life being different from the way it is. They are used to the misery. It's comfortable to them and while they want peace it is so foreign to them. Everything about their life will change. It will all be for the better, but it will be different. They may feel like they are losing control of people or things, when in reality they are gaining control of their lives. But it's foreign. Baby steps... great point here. Sometimes I want to eat the whole elephant in one gulp. :o I would like to also add something that helps me: visualization. Take time each day to visualize what you want. Make it very vivid. Then the thing of it being so foreign diminishes greatly. It starts to become reality in your mind. <abbr><em>Jennifer´s last blog post..<a href="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/PrinciplesForPeace/~3/437536611/" rel="nofollow">Have You Told Yourself this Lie?</a></abbr></em> Great post Ari. This makes sense. The ole’ comfort zone - get’s so many people probably most of us in so many ways we don’t realize.

Just like in SFT Awareness, many people choose not to go through the training or at least do the work because they can’t fathom there life being different from the way it is. They are used to the misery. It’s comfortable to them and while they want peace it is so foreign to them. Everything about their life will change. It will all be for the better, but it will be different. They may feel like they are losing control of people or things, when in reality they are gaining control of their lives. But it’s foreign.

Baby steps… great point here. Sometimes I want to eat the whole elephant in one gulp. :o
I would like to also add something that helps me: visualization. Take time each day to visualize what you want. Make it very vivid. Then the thing of it being so foreign diminishes greatly. It starts to become reality in your mind.

Jennifer´s last blog post..Have You Told Yourself this Lie?

]]>