Comments on: Do You Expect the Unexpected? http://ourbestversion.com/2008/12/do-you-expect-the-unexpected/ Big Picture of Healing and Growth: from Depression to Self Actualization Fri, 30 Jul 2010 17:28:00 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.7 hourly 1 By: Ari Koinuma http://ourbestversion.com/2008/12/do-you-expect-the-unexpected/comment-page-1/#comment-1403 Ari Koinuma Mon, 15 Dec 2008 14:41:47 +0000 http://ourbestversion.com/?p=857#comment-1403 Hi Grace, Yeah, as I was writing it, I was struck by how simple and common-sense it seems. I feel kinda dumb for having to write such a post. ;-) But while I've made lots of improvements on creating space for the unexpected, there are still a lot of places where I really assume that things go my way. It's a habit that I'm still unlearning. ari Hi Grace,

Yeah, as I was writing it, I was struck by how simple and common-sense it seems. I feel kinda dumb for having to write such a post. ;-) But while I’ve made lots of improvements on creating space for the unexpected, there are still a lot of places where I really assume that things go my way. It’s a habit that I’m still unlearning.

ari

]]> By: Grace Kleppin http://ourbestversion.com/2008/12/do-you-expect-the-unexpected/comment-page-1/#comment-1393 Grace Kleppin Sat, 13 Dec 2008 03:56:13 +0000 http://ourbestversion.com/?p=857#comment-1393 Why are the hardest things to learn so simple when we see them from the other side? What you are saying is simple and profound at the same time. I have a rule of thumb. When I start making lists to keep track of the lists it is time to slow down and remember to breathe. This time of year is uncomfortable to me, because I don't like deadlines, and the holiday season is full of them. Got to get the presents by X, got to put up the decorations by X, got to send the Christmas cards out by X...We can take the X out of Christmas but it still manages to re-insert itself. :-) G. <abbr><em>Grace Kleppin´s last blog post..<a href="http://facetothesun.com/2008/12/reframing-the-red-roof/" rel="nofollow">Reframing the red roof</a></abbr></em> Why are the hardest things to learn so simple when we see them from the other side? What you are saying is simple and profound at the same time.

I have a rule of thumb. When I start making lists to keep track of the lists it is time to slow down and remember to breathe.

This time of year is uncomfortable to me, because I don’t like deadlines, and the holiday season is full of them. Got to get the presents by X, got to put up the decorations by X, got to send the Christmas cards out by X…We can take the X out of Christmas but it still manages to re-insert itself. :-) G.

Grace Kleppin´s last blog post..Reframing the red roof

]]> By: Ari Koinuma http://ourbestversion.com/2008/12/do-you-expect-the-unexpected/comment-page-1/#comment-1390 Ari Koinuma Sat, 13 Dec 2008 02:33:34 +0000 http://ourbestversion.com/?p=857#comment-1390 Laurie, One of my close friends had a surprise like that! Little tops it as far as impact on your life! ari Laurie,

One of my close friends had a surprise like that! Little tops it as far as impact on your life!

ari

]]> By: Laurie http://ourbestversion.com/2008/12/do-you-expect-the-unexpected/comment-page-1/#comment-1389 Laurie Fri, 12 Dec 2008 01:02:54 +0000 http://ourbestversion.com/?p=857#comment-1389 A friend of mine got the unexpected when at 41 she found she was pregnant. Now that one is not one you would necessarily plan for. Some unexpected things are nice surprises. A friend of mine got the unexpected when at 41 she found she was pregnant. Now that one is not one you would necessarily plan for. Some unexpected things are nice surprises.

]]> By: Ari Koinuma http://ourbestversion.com/2008/12/do-you-expect-the-unexpected/comment-page-1/#comment-1388 Ari Koinuma Thu, 11 Dec 2008 18:00:49 +0000 http://ourbestversion.com/?p=857#comment-1388 Hi Karl, I used to do that, too! 50% margin is a good one. Then you'll really feel like you have enough time. ari Hi Karl,

I used to do that, too! 50% margin is a good one. Then you’ll really feel like you have enough time.

ari

]]> By: Ari Koinuma http://ourbestversion.com/2008/12/do-you-expect-the-unexpected/comment-page-1/#comment-1387 Ari Koinuma Thu, 11 Dec 2008 18:00:22 +0000 http://ourbestversion.com/?p=857#comment-1387 Hi Betsy, "They think if they plan, they’ll not make a mistake." That's true, isn't it? I can see that. But what I wanted to say was that preparing for the unexpected is an important part of planning. Not to think of every possible thing that can happen, but simply just to know that there will be something, and that you can deal with it when it comes up, because you left room for it. Winging it is difficult for some people, while others have a hard time with planning. ;-) As with everything, I think the sweet spot is in balancing. ari Hi Betsy,

“They think if they plan, they’ll not make a mistake.”

That’s true, isn’t it? I can see that. But what I wanted to say was that preparing for the unexpected is an important part of planning. Not to think of every possible thing that can happen, but simply just to know that there will be something, and that you can deal with it when it comes up, because you left room for it.

Winging it is difficult for some people, while others have a hard time with planning. ;-) As with everything, I think the sweet spot is in balancing.

ari

]]> By: Ari Koinuma http://ourbestversion.com/2008/12/do-you-expect-the-unexpected/comment-page-1/#comment-1386 Ari Koinuma Thu, 11 Dec 2008 17:57:35 +0000 http://ourbestversion.com/?p=857#comment-1386 Hi Sean, Well, this is a rare pleasure to see you here! I'm amazed that you still have time to comment, with all that you got going on. Pavlina talks about this in his book -- when you increase your alignment with the Truth principle, you get better at estimating and being in touch with reality. ari Hi Sean,

Well, this is a rare pleasure to see you here! I’m amazed that you still have time to comment, with all that you got going on.

Pavlina talks about this in his book — when you increase your alignment with the Truth principle, you get better at estimating and being in touch with reality.

ari

]]> By: Ari Koinuma http://ourbestversion.com/2008/12/do-you-expect-the-unexpected/comment-page-1/#comment-1385 Ari Koinuma Thu, 11 Dec 2008 17:56:18 +0000 http://ourbestversion.com/?p=857#comment-1385 Hi Bamboo, That's a good point, I didn't think about it that way. Surprises don't always have to be negative, but some of them are nasty. Grace under pressure is a sign of a great character. ari Hi Bamboo,

That’s a good point, I didn’t think about it that way. Surprises don’t always have to be negative, but some of them are nasty. Grace under pressure is a sign of a great character.

ari

]]> By: Karl Staib - Work Happy Now http://ourbestversion.com/2008/12/do-you-expect-the-unexpected/comment-page-1/#comment-1384 Karl Staib - Work Happy Now Thu, 11 Dec 2008 14:18:43 +0000 http://ourbestversion.com/?p=857#comment-1384 I always under budget my time. If I think it will only take me an hour it takes two. I have to recognize this pattern and adjust accordingly. From now on I'll tack an extra 50% more to my estimated time that way I feel pressure to get it done, but not overwhelmed by losing so much time. We'll see what happens. <abbr><em>Karl Staib - Work Happy Now´s last blog post..<a href="http://www.workhappynow.com/2008/12/great-leadership-requires-great-communication-%E2%80%93-duh/" rel="nofollow">Great Leadership Requires Great Communication – Duh!</a></abbr></em> I always under budget my time. If I think it will only take me an hour it takes two. I have to recognize this pattern and adjust accordingly. From now on I’ll tack an extra 50% more to my estimated time that way I feel pressure to get it done, but not overwhelmed by losing so much time.

We’ll see what happens.

Karl Staib - Work Happy Now´s last blog post..Great Leadership Requires Great Communication – Duh!

]]> By: Betsy http://ourbestversion.com/2008/12/do-you-expect-the-unexpected/comment-page-1/#comment-1383 Betsy Thu, 11 Dec 2008 13:26:13 +0000 http://ourbestversion.com/?p=857#comment-1383 Hi Ari - One thing to mention: if you are constantly planning for any and every eventuality, no matter how remote the possibility, it keeps you from doing anything except plan. We see this all the time with our franchisees, and I believe it is fear-based. They are afraid to go out and make relationships with prospective customers. They are afraid to commit to a marketing plan, etc. They want to be prepared. They think if they plan, they'll not make a mistake. "Winging it" is difficult, but you have to get past the simple fact that not everything you plan defensively for has a chance of happening. I think this is the flip side of what you posted. :D <abbr><em>Betsy´s last blog post..<a href="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/PassingThru/~3/479571731/" rel="nofollow">ENDANGERED SPECIES - THE COURTEOUS DRIVER</a></abbr></em> Hi Ari - One thing to mention: if you are constantly planning for any and every eventuality, no matter how remote the possibility, it keeps you from doing anything except plan. We see this all the time with our franchisees, and I believe it is fear-based. They are afraid to go out and make relationships with prospective customers. They are afraid to commit to a marketing plan, etc. They want to be prepared. They think if they plan, they’ll not make a mistake.

“Winging it” is difficult, but you have to get past the simple fact that not everything you plan defensively for has a chance of happening. I think this is the flip side of what you posted. :D
Betsy´s last blog post..ENDANGERED SPECIES - THE COURTEOUS DRIVER

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