Comments on: Reader Question: Jealousy, Suspicion and Insecurity in a Long-Distance Relationship http://ourbestversion.com/2008/12/user-question-jealousy-suspicion-and-insecurity-in-a-long-distance-relationship/ Big Picture of Healing and Growth: from Depression to Self Actualization Thu, 09 Feb 2012 18:23:09 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.7 hourly 1 By: Nitin http://ourbestversion.com/2008/12/user-question-jealousy-suspicion-and-insecurity-in-a-long-distance-relationship/comment-page-1/#comment-3167 Nitin Sat, 17 Sep 2011 12:53:49 +0000 http://ourbestversion.com/?p=835#comment-3167 Hello sir,my name is Nitin.I am having a relation with my girlfriend for the past 5 yrs now.I love her a lot and she also loves me but sometimes i feel afraid that she will leave me.I was okay with the relation but i used to suspect my girlfriend a lot,and you wont believe that my suspection sometimes resulted in truth.She is studying her post-graduation now and am miles apart from her and we hardly meet.everything was fine before she went to college for her post graduation,often she used to tell me about a guy.now before i go ahead and mention anything about that guy,let me inform you that my girlfriend before getting in affair with me was already having an affair and the guy ditched her and left her,now this was long back when we dont even know each other.Now coming to college,after she went to college she used to tell me about one guy,and i used to yell at her,after few months she spent in college she brokeup with me stating the reason that i dont trust her,and she got engaged to that guy whom she met in college.After a month she called me back and was asking how i was all this while?in reply i never shouted at her,but she was confused that she loves me or not coz she says that she dosent even knw that she loves me or not after 5 yrs.finally she realized her fault and told that whtever she has done was her fault and i forgave her.now also sometimes i feel that she is cheating me.now also we are having fight and she says that am suffering from a disease.now i dont want to loose her coz i felt the pain onvce.recently she came to my place for a week,we had a nice time,but as soon as she went back,for the first few days it was ok,but now as days pass by everything is again becoming similar to tha past.. wht should i do???how do i beleive that she is telling me the truth..and does she loves me????i am confused. Hello sir,my name is Nitin.I am having a relation with my girlfriend for the past 5 yrs now.I love her a lot and she also loves me but sometimes i feel afraid that she will leave me.I was okay with the relation but i used to suspect my girlfriend a lot,and you wont believe that my suspection sometimes resulted in truth.She is studying her post-graduation now and am miles apart from her and we hardly meet.everything was fine before she went to college for her post graduation,often she used to tell me about a guy.now before i go ahead and mention anything about that guy,let me inform you that my girlfriend before getting in affair with me was already having an affair and the guy ditched her and left her,now this was long back when we dont even know each other.Now coming to college,after she went to college she used to tell me about one guy,and i used to yell at her,after few months she spent in college she brokeup with me stating the reason that i dont trust her,and she got engaged to that guy whom she met in college.After a month she called me back and was asking how i was all this while?in reply i never shouted at her,but she was confused that she loves me or not coz she says that she dosent even knw that she loves me or not after 5 yrs.finally she realized her fault and told that whtever she has done was her fault and i forgave her.now also sometimes i feel that she is cheating me.now also we are having fight and she says that am suffering from a disease.now i dont want to loose her coz i felt the pain onvce.recently she came to my place for a week,we had a nice time,but as soon as she went back,for the first few days it was ok,but now as days pass by everything is again becoming similar to tha past.. wht should i do???how do i beleive that she is telling me the truth..and does she loves me????i am confused.

]]> By: Sara http://ourbestversion.com/2008/12/user-question-jealousy-suspicion-and-insecurity-in-a-long-distance-relationship/comment-page-1/#comment-3034 Sara Tue, 12 Jul 2011 17:27:35 +0000 http://ourbestversion.com/?p=835#comment-3034 Thank you very much for this article. it is very useful for me. i'm really like this. i dnt try to improve my relationship. i just bully my boyfriend. i knw this in me.but i forget it. so i'm being bad to him.i need a mechanism to keep this in my head everytime without forgetting. Thank you very much for this article. it is very useful for me. i’m really like this. i dnt try to improve my relationship. i just bully my boyfriend. i knw this in me.but i forget it. so i’m being bad to him.i need a mechanism to keep this in my head everytime without forgetting.

]]> By: Flor http://ourbestversion.com/2008/12/user-question-jealousy-suspicion-and-insecurity-in-a-long-distance-relationship/comment-page-1/#comment-2437 Flor Sat, 12 Feb 2011 07:49:26 +0000 http://ourbestversion.com/?p=835#comment-2437 I just really like my own boyfriend sooo much and he is really so great for myself. I adore pretty much everything that is related to him. The only problem though, is he is friends with too many females and I can't stand realizing that he's talking to a lot of girls other than me. I hate being jealous. I'm trying to just ignore the jealousy but I can't. Please help me out. Thanks. I just really like my own boyfriend sooo much and he is really so great for myself. I adore pretty much everything that is related to him. The only problem though, is he is friends with too many females and I can’t stand realizing that he’s talking to a lot of girls other than me. I hate being jealous. I’m trying to just ignore the jealousy but I can’t. Please help me out. Thanks.

]]> By: MAX http://ourbestversion.com/2008/12/user-question-jealousy-suspicion-and-insecurity-in-a-long-distance-relationship/comment-page-1/#comment-2071 MAX Wed, 10 Mar 2010 05:55:07 +0000 http://ourbestversion.com/?p=835#comment-2071 Thank you. It is really special article for me, because all this time, i knew what was lacking in me, but was not ready to accept that. After reading this article i really got it inside me, i have accepted this and i make promise to work on it from this moment. It is gonna be life changing article for me. Thank you, Thank you from my deepest heart. max Thank you.
It is really special article for me, because all this time, i knew what was lacking in me, but was not ready to accept that. After reading this article i really got it inside me, i have accepted this and i make promise to work on it from this moment. It is gonna be life changing article for me. Thank you, Thank you from my deepest heart.

max

]]> By: Ari Koinuma http://ourbestversion.com/2008/12/user-question-jealousy-suspicion-and-insecurity-in-a-long-distance-relationship/comment-page-1/#comment-1348 Ari Koinuma Tue, 02 Dec 2008 14:22:41 +0000 http://ourbestversion.com/?p=835#comment-1348 Hello -- Thanks for the comment. Yes, that's an important realization. That and being secure in yourself really should lessen your jealousy. ari Hello –

Thanks for the comment. Yes, that’s an important realization. That and being secure in yourself really should lessen your jealousy.

ari

]]> By: Lovers Lobby http://ourbestversion.com/2008/12/user-question-jealousy-suspicion-and-insecurity-in-a-long-distance-relationship/comment-page-1/#comment-1347 Lovers Lobby Tue, 02 Dec 2008 07:35:03 +0000 http://ourbestversion.com/?p=835#comment-1347 I am making myself understand that she and I are both two separate people who love each other but still are separate people. This thinking control my jealousy. I am making myself understand that she and I are both two separate people who love each other but still are separate people. This thinking control my jealousy.

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