Comments on: The Secret to Minimizing Worries about Your Challenges http://ourbestversion.com/2009/01/the-secret-to-minimizing-worries-about-your-challenges/ Big Picture of Healing and Growth: from Depression to Self Actualization Fri, 04 May 2012 14:01:57 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Ari Koinuma http://ourbestversion.com/2009/01/the-secret-to-minimizing-worries-about-your-challenges/#comment-1178 Ari Koinuma Mon, 19 Jan 2009 16:35:41 +0000 http://ourbestversion.com/?p=910#comment-1178 Hi Melinda, You are one woman full of inspiring stories, aren't you? That's a fabulous example of how you never know what turns out to be the "best" in your life. Thanks for sharing. ari Hi Melinda,

You are one woman full of inspiring stories, aren’t you? That’s a fabulous example of how you never know what turns out to be the “best” in your life. Thanks for sharing.

ari

]]> By: Melinda http://ourbestversion.com/2009/01/the-secret-to-minimizing-worries-about-your-challenges/#comment-1177 Melinda Thu, 15 Jan 2009 16:11:03 +0000 http://ourbestversion.com/?p=910#comment-1177 Ari, Another great post. Because of the way my life has been, I really do have this feeling that things are going exactly the way they are supposed to. I have definitely come across obstacles in my life, which changed the course of what happened--which I ultimately feel shaped my life in a more positive direction. The experience that comes first to mind was when I was accepted to Harvard University for graduate school. This was my dream--to go to Harvard--but the cost was a huge obstacle for me. Every time I sat down with the numbers, I could not make them work--not without incurring a HUGE amount of debt, which, as an older student, I hated taking on. I contacted the advisor at Harvard and asked him about funding--and he told me that they didn't guarantee any funding but that they would 'try to help me find work at the University while going to school and that some grants or scholarships *might* be available. A week later, I received a an acceptance letter to Penn State--not my first choice of schools but a very good program, nonetheless. They offered me *full and guaranteed* funding. My entire PhD paid for! Not only would tuition and books be paid for but I would also be given a living stipend, which was a huge dream also. I was so torn--I really wanted to go to Harvard but Penn State would allow me to finish graduate school taking out no additional loans. I ended up going to Penn State--which altered my path--but it also altered it in a way where I truly do believe in a more positive way--because through that course, I not only got my degree, I met my (now) husband, who really is the love of my life. I believe we are placed on a path and along the way, we are given signs or directions in which to go--sometimes we listen to our heart and sometimes we don't. I believe if we listen to our hearts, we will rarely go down the wrong path. Cheers, Melinda <abbr><em>Melinda´s last blog post..<a href="http://blog.melindaville.com/2008/12/04/why-society-still-cant-face-childhood-sexual-abuse.aspx?ref=rss" rel="nofollow">Why Society Still Can't Face Childhood Sexual Abuse</a></abbr></em> Ari, Another great post. Because of the way my life has been, I really do have this feeling that things are going exactly the way they are supposed to. I have definitely come across obstacles in my life, which changed the course of what happened–which I ultimately feel shaped my life in a more positive direction. The experience that comes first to mind was when I was accepted to Harvard University for graduate school. This was my dream–to go to Harvard–but the cost was a huge obstacle for me. Every time I sat down with the numbers, I could not make them work–not without incurring a HUGE amount of debt, which, as an older student, I hated taking on.

I contacted the advisor at Harvard and asked him about funding–and he told me that they didn’t guarantee any funding but that they would ‘try to help me find work at the University while going to school and that some grants or scholarships *might* be available. A week later, I received a an acceptance letter to Penn State–not my first choice of schools but a very good program, nonetheless. They offered me *full and guaranteed* funding. My entire PhD paid for! Not only would tuition and books be paid for but I would also be given a living stipend, which was a huge dream also. I was so torn–I really wanted to go to Harvard but Penn State would allow me to finish graduate school taking out no additional loans.

I ended up going to Penn State–which altered my path–but it also altered it in a way where I truly do believe in a more positive way–because through that course, I not only got my degree, I met my (now) husband, who really is the love of my life.

I believe we are placed on a path and along the way, we are given signs or directions in which to go–sometimes we listen to our heart and sometimes we don’t. I believe if we listen to our hearts, we will rarely go down the wrong path.

Cheers,

Melinda

Melinda´s last blog post..Why Society Still Can’t Face Childhood Sexual Abuse

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