Comments on: Reader Question: Intuition in Relationships http://ourbestversion.com/2009/01/user-question-intuition-in-relationships/ Big Picture of Healing and Growth: from Depression to Self Actualization Fri, 30 Jul 2010 17:22:57 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.7 hourly 1 By: Ari Koinuma http://ourbestversion.com/2009/01/user-question-intuition-in-relationships/comment-page-1/#comment-1591 Ari Koinuma Fri, 06 Feb 2009 14:32:05 +0000 http://ourbestversion.com/?p=976#comment-1591 Tom, I hear you. It's really hard to finding authenticity, unless you figure out specifically where to look. I have to ask, though, if you think a dating site is where you'll find your soulmate. If you honestly believe that, that's no problem, but think of the kind of person you want to be with -- what is she like? Where would she hung out? What kind of activities/organizations would she be involved in? Authenticity can be found, if you look in places where authenticity is required and expected. Such places are not common, but they do exist. For example, I took part in a group coaching program by my coach Tom Volkar at <a href="http://delightfulwork.com" rel="nofollow">Delightful Work</a>. The people who were taking it with me were all very authentic. Like-minded people congregate. So figure out who your ideal mate may be, and start looking for places where such people hung out. Good luck! ari Tom,

I hear you. It’s really hard to finding authenticity, unless you figure out specifically where to look.

I have to ask, though, if you think a dating site is where you’ll find your soulmate. If you honestly believe that, that’s no problem, but think of the kind of person you want to be with — what is she like? Where would she hung out? What kind of activities/organizations would she be involved in?

Authenticity can be found, if you look in places where authenticity is required and expected. Such places are not common, but they do exist. For example, I took part in a group coaching program by my coach Tom Volkar at Delightful Work. The people who were taking it with me were all very authentic.

Like-minded people congregate. So figure out who your ideal mate may be, and start looking for places where such people hung out.

Good luck!

ari

]]> By: tom http://ourbestversion.com/2009/01/user-question-intuition-in-relationships/comment-page-1/#comment-1580 tom Tue, 03 Feb 2009 18:09:27 +0000 http://ourbestversion.com/?p=976#comment-1580 In the end, as you said, being true to your inner self and what your heart desires. Although if I may add, your heart may not be enough, you do need to use your head also. It is also sad to see how so many people are fake and never end up being themselves, they go around hoping someone else will accept them for who they are, which is not really them. I am on a dating site right now, and I am reading profiles and I hear the same crap and there's nothing interesting about it. And i am asking myself what is the point of putting in the effort? <abbr><em>tom´s last blog post..<a href="http://tomaszgorecki.com/2009/02/02/dont-waste-your-time-arguing-with-religious-people/" rel="nofollow">Don’t waste your time arguing with “religious” people</a></abbr></em> In the end, as you said, being true to your inner self and what your heart desires. Although if I may add, your heart may not be enough, you do need to use your head also.

It is also sad to see how so many people are fake and never end up being themselves, they go around hoping someone else will accept them for who they are, which is not really them.

I am on a dating site right now, and I am reading profiles and I hear the same crap and there’s nothing interesting about it. And i am asking myself what is the point of putting in the effort?

tom´s last blog post..Don’t waste your time arguing with “religious” people

]]> By: Ari Koinuma http://ourbestversion.com/2009/01/user-question-intuition-in-relationships/comment-page-1/#comment-1575 Ari Koinuma Tue, 03 Feb 2009 16:31:12 +0000 http://ourbestversion.com/?p=976#comment-1575 Hey Tom, Welcome to OBV! Well, I am not saying you should pursue a serious relationship just to gain experience -- we all pursue it with the intention of making it work. But the truth is that it's hard to know what's going to happen to a relationship, unless you are extremely well-developed intuitive. Still, you should live true to your inner self and pursue what your heart calls you -- whatever happens as a result will always help us grow. ari Hey Tom,

Welcome to OBV! Well, I am not saying you should pursue a serious relationship just to gain experience — we all pursue it with the intention of making it work. But the truth is that it’s hard to know what’s going to happen to a relationship, unless you are extremely well-developed intuitive. Still, you should live true to your inner self and pursue what your heart calls you — whatever happens as a result will always help us grow.

ari

]]> By: tom http://ourbestversion.com/2009/01/user-question-intuition-in-relationships/comment-page-1/#comment-1566 tom Fri, 30 Jan 2009 03:30:58 +0000 http://ourbestversion.com/?p=976#comment-1566 Interesting article. I never really considered intuition as a way of going with it even though it may end up not being the right thing. Just doing it for the reason of experiencing it to learn. Should relationships be taken with the same mindset as businesses? <abbr><em>tom´s last blog post..<a href="http://tomaszgorecki.com/2009/01/29/stupidity-pays/" rel="nofollow">Stupidity pays</a></abbr></em> Interesting article. I never really considered intuition as a way of going with it even though it may end up not being the right thing. Just doing it for the reason of experiencing it to learn.

Should relationships be taken with the same mindset as businesses?

tom´s last blog post..Stupidity pays

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