Comments on: Reader Question: How Do I Deal with My Relationship Anxiety?

By: Stop Anxiety

Stop Anxiety — Tue, 11 May 2010 21:21:09 +0000

Last summer/fall, I had intermittent inner ear problems and would get vertigo out of nowhere. The last time it happened I was going 70mph in the left lane of a freeway. I got so freaked out it triggered a full-blown panic attack. I had to pull over and call 911. I went to the hospital and was fine, but ever since then, even 8 months later, I get anxiety when I drive on the freeway. Lucky for me, I have to drive that stretch of road on my way to school 4 times a week but it has still been *really* tough.

By: Personal Relationship Troubles-Fear Of Rejection

Personal Relationship Troubles-Fear Of Rejection — Mon, 09 Mar 2009 16:45:24 +0000

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By: Liara Covert

Liara Covert — Fri, 06 Mar 2009 12:14:04 +0000

Ari, your perspective resonates with th apparent energy flow. You make an intriguing and astute analogy by saying the nature of food you ingest reflects how a person feels about himself. I am a silent observer to loved ones who consume trash. To love unconditionally means you permit people to make their own choices without judging, as hard as that my be to hold your tongue. Each person raises awareness at his own pace. Being aware of what is going on around you lets you know you are increasingly raising awareness of your own inner self. Liara Covert´s last blog post..Trigger divine revelations

By: Ari Koinuma

Ari Koinuma — Wed, 04 Mar 2009 22:35:54 +0000

Hi Chris,

Wow, what you’re describing sounds pretty intense. Sounds like something to try in a therapy session.

ari

By: Ari Koinuma

Ari Koinuma — Tue, 03 Mar 2009 22:28:30 +0000

Carlotta,

Yes, I use EFT as well. It’s definitely a useful technique in purging out these stuck feelings. Glad to hear it helped heal your relationships!

ari

By: Ari Koinuma

Ari Koinuma — Tue, 03 Mar 2009 22:26:50 +0000

AJ,

Well, ideally, yes, but I can understand how it gets complicated when your history gets involved. What’s really going on and what’s really a projection from the past? It’s hard to tell when you’re in the midst.

ari

By: Chris Edgar | Purpose Power Coaching

Chris Edgar | Purpose Power Coaching — Mon, 02 Mar 2009 05:51:56 +0000

Thanks for this post Ari. I like the letter to your loved one exercise you described. Another one I sometimes use with clients, which comes from Gestalt therapy, is to have them imagine their loved one sitting in a chair across from them, and to say whatever they need to say to clear whatever stuck emotions are having the relationship feel difficult. Chris Edgar | Purpose Power Coaching´s last blog post..Getting To The “Heart” Of Public Speaking Anxiety

By: Carlota

Carlota — Sat, 28 Feb 2009 03:52:35 +0000

This was an awesome post, and question! Thanks Ari, for being so thorough with it! You make a good point about "there’s really no quick fix if you want to heal completely from the bottom up." I like to use the Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT). I've taken specific memories about my parents that have haunted me, and affected how I feel about myself, and condensed them to mere stories to the point where I have no painful emotions associated with these memories anymore. I'm a testimony to the amazing happiness (and relief) you can experience when doing inner healing work. What's a miracle is the relationship I now have with my parents. There is a lot more love, appreciation, and accceptance between us now. Love and Light, Carlota Carlota´s last blog post..A true story about Escaping Criticism

By: AJ Kumar

AJ Kumar — Thu, 26 Feb 2009 16:54:00 +0000

Interesting story. Relationships can seem as if they're complicated, but they're not. It starts with having open communication and consciously aware of what's going on at any given time. AJ Kumar´s last blog post..Blogger Mindset 2.0: Inspire Yourself for Endless Ideas