Archive for the 'Best Practices' Category

The Folly of Being Likable

Imagine yourself on a crowded bus, or a train. You’ve secured yourself a seat. Lots of people standing.
One of them is an oldish looking lady, with a few bags that look heavy.
You get up out of your seat and gesture to her that she can sit down.
Her disgruntled response: “Hey, don’t insult me. [...]

You Are a Public Figure

Many of us love our anonymity.  We don’t have to carry the burden of being watched and analyzed — you don’t have to be on your best behavior all the time.  But that is actually an illusion.  Our actions are making impacts all the time, whether you realize or not.  In this post I discuss [...]

Making Uncertainty Your Friend

I used to be scared of uncertainty.  I still do, sometimes.
Unknown is always scary — or at least so they have us believe.
Think about movies and TV shows that are designed to scare you.  You know the most scary part?
The anticipation.  The build up before you get a full glimpse of the threat, or the [...]

Trying Too Hard Is Just as Big of a Sin

Today, I was reading books to my daughter, and was reading Leo the Late Bloomer by Robert Kraus.
It’s a sweet book about a little tiger boy, who can’t read, write, or eat neatly.  His father is naturally concerned, but the parents just decide to wait patiently for their son to “bloom.”  Eventually, they even stop [...]

Breaking and Building Habits

Habit: A recurrent, often unconscious pattern of behavior that is acquired through frequent repetition. — Answers.com
So we’re all creatures of habits.  We get used to doing certain things in certain ways, and allow our minds and bodies to not only be accustomed to the same pattern, but expect and yearn for it.
This is [...]

Ideal Distance in All Relationships

It wouldn’t be an earth-shattering revelation if I were to tell you that there are varying degrees of relationship compatibility, would it?
Some relationships are meant to be close.  Others aren’t.
Doh.
In fact, all relationships have an ideal distance.  I’m not talking just about soulmates or significant others.  Friends, families, the distance between you and your work, [...]

Fear Is a Beacon

To grow old is to acquire fear.
When we are born, we are fearless. Well, mostly. There are some instinctive fears.
But most of the fears, we gain over the course of our lives.
And that’s a good mechanism, for our survival. If you do something once and get hurt, you don’t do it again. [...]

Dangers of Thinking Small/Promises of Thinking Big: Personal Leadership

It really pains me to see this, all the time.
People getting caught up in small details.
Have you ever felt like you are toiling away at your daily life, only to feel like you really accomplished nothing at the end of the day?
You wonder, where did my time go? I worked so hard, yet not [...]

On Research: Boldly Ignore Helpful Information That Doesn’t Empower You

I don’t know about you, but I get overwhelmed easily.
It’s easy to feel that way in the internet era. We are swimming in the sea of “helpful” information.
What matters is not how much we know, but knowing how to find the right information. That includes filtering and discarding bits that don’t help you.

Your Ultimate Goal Revealed

In this article I illustrate simple principles that can bring focus and peace to your life: to identify the ultimate goal of your life, and live in a way that you ascertain reaching of that goal.
I don’t need to know who you are, what you do or what you want.
I know what your goal [...]