I was already preparing my last article when I received this question from Jenny. She broke up an engagement because of an inexplicable feeling that something wasn’t right.
Welcome, new visitor! Thanks for visiting my site. My name is Ari Koinuma, and this is my blog about becoming who you are meant to be. [...]
Intuition is a very confusing thing. It’s not a feeling, it’s not the voice of reason. Oh, it’s a voice, all right — it whispers in your ears. But other than that, it’s really hard to explain what it is.
You see, there are actually 3 voices in your head, and that’s if you’re normal. The [...]
Note: this is a condensed version of a longer essay.
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So, the basis of all desires is to be Who-We-Are, the way we are meant to be. Being Who-We-Are is the key to living a fulfilling life.
That seems obvious, but in reality we often do acts that not only prevent us to be Who-We-Are, but take [...]
In this essay, I propose a system to help understand our emotional nature, and use it correctly to gauge decisions and options that empower you to be more of who you are.
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In a previous article, I discussed that the basis of all desires is to be who you [...]
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The basis of all desires is to be who you are.
All the things you do out of desire is an extension of your fundamental desire to be Who-You-Are. Everything from the choice of your vehicle to who you hang out with to what you wear, [...]
Note: This is a digest version of a longer essay on goal-setting, the final installment in a 4-part series. And here’s the previous installment in this series.
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In reality, we can’t live on process-oriented goals alone. We set little and big goals everyday, without even being aware that we do, because we do need to produce [...]
In this final installment of the 4-part series on process-oriented goal-setting, I’m going to discuss how to make peace with the result-oriented world by applying process-oriented principles where it counts. Along the way, we’ll clear up some misunderstandings and pitfalls, paving the way for truly best of both worlds: great results produced by enjoyable processes. [...]
Note: This is a digest version of a longer essay on goal-setting, the 3rd installment in a 4-part series. And here’s the previous installment in this series.
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To set process-oriented goals, you have to ask different set of questions than those you run through to set up result-oriented goals. With result-oriented, you consider the effectiveness, impact, [...]
This is the part 3 of a series on how to set process-oriented goals. In the last chapter, we learned what it means to be process-oriented and what the benefits are. Here, we’re going to look at how to set goals based on new paradigm, and start living the benefits of your goals right away.
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In our result-driven society, we are told to set goals in order to be effective. While goals have tremendous potential to improve your productivity, but focusing solely on results and outcomes also have potential for creating anxiety, overwhelmingness and failure. In this first chapter of a 4-part series, I identify 7 reasons why [...]
