Archive for the 'Dissecting Problems' Category

Reader Question: Jealousy, Suspicion and Insecurity in a Long-Distance Relationship

Long-distance relationships can be very hard. Recently, I received a question from Rajesh about how to deal with escalating suspicion, jealousy and fear while he and his girlfriend are miles apart and rarely see each other. Below is his story, and my response.
I have a simple question. How to get rid of [...]

What I Am Not Thankful for

This last week was Thanksgiving in US.  Though I’m not an American, I’ve grown to accustomed to the spirit and the ritual of this holiday.   And indeed, my family and I shared a very special time — it seems that each year we spend with our growing children, the more we realize how important these [...]

Life’s Survival Guide for Sensitive Souls

Are you a sensitive person?  I am.  Life can be a bit tricky for us sensitives, mainly because our reactions to things are not quite “normal.”  Here’s an essay on how I have come to view our sensitivity, and how I learned to deal with it.  Special thanks to my friend Tammy from A Day [...]

The Power of Peer-Mentoring

Mentoring/coaching doesn’t just happen when you pay someone who’s more experienced than you.  It can also happen among your very peers — and such a partnership can have bond and strength that few other relationships can.  Let me tell you about my peer-mentoring partner, and invite you to join me in forming a new peer-mentoring [...]

Bliss vs. Logic: Understanding Our Emotional Nature (Digest)

Note: this is a condensed version of a longer essay.

So, the basis of all desires is to be Who-We-Are, the way we are meant to be.  Being Who-We-Are is the key to living a fulfilling life.
That seems obvious, but in reality we often do acts that not only prevent us to be Who-We-Are, but take [...]

The Basis of All Desires and The Truth about Growth

Here is an essay on understanding the core of our desires, and an observation on what it means to grow.
In a hurry? Read the digest version.

So far, I established that living a fulfilling life is one’s ultimate goal, and the way to do it is to focus on the path.
To be fulfilled on [...]

Why You Can’t Do What You Love (Digest)

This is a digest version of a longer essay. If you like it, explore it in full detail.

“Do what you love to do.” I’m sure you’ve read it before.
But do you really feel like it?
If not, that doesn’t mean that you are lazy or coward. It simply means you are too depleted [...]

Why You Can’t Do What You Love

Here’s an examination of a situation when one can’t even do what he/she loves. And talking about solutions and rewarding activities leave you overwhelmed and unmotivated. It turns out that you have to first make room in your life, before you can invite goodness to come in.
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How to Get Ready to Meet Your Soulmate (Digest)

Note: This is a digest version of a longer essay on preparing yourself for an encounter with your soulmate.

Here are 4 areas in which you can work on to become a person fit, ready and available for an encounter with your soulmate.

Be Self Sufficient. If you’re looking to fill your loneliness, you’ll only find [...]

How to Get Ready to Meet Your Soulmate

Looking for that special someone? Finding a soulmate remains a formidable challenge for many of us. The good news, however, is that it’s possible. Many of us have found that someone. Here’s my take on how I prepared myself for that special encounter.
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No, [...]