Complaining is commonly considered a negative act to be avoided, and for the most part, I agree. However, if the choice was between complaining and bottling up your hurt inside, then complaining is definitely the lesser of two evils. Below, let me tell you how I use complaining to let out my steam.
–
I didn’t [...]
Most of us struggle with bad habits. In this article, I’m going to discuss 7 strategic areas of consideration that’ll lead to a successful and pain-free habit change.
Have you made a mistake of trying to break a bad habit alone, relying solely on your will power and motivation?
I have.
And more often than not, I [...]
This essay expands upon my previous entry on fear of success.
—
I once had a co-worker who hated her job. Her job stress was so much, that it was hurting her body. She wore those wrist supports to nurse her injury.
Her husband made enough money, so she didn’t need to work. She had [...]
We all want success, but actually many of us fear it as well. Why do we do that, and how can we break it down? Here’s one universal approach that will help you deal with a major portion of your fear of success.
One of my current challenges is to stop staying [...]
Failures and mistakes bum us out. It’s worse when you know it’s your own fault.
How do you react?
Do you beat yourself up?
I know I used to. I would punish myself for mistakes. I would take away treats and rewards, saying “You don’t deserve that, Ari.”
It’s as if I was training myself like Pavlov’s dog.
But nowadays, [...]
Note: this is the digest version of the extended essay analyzing how self-esteem is the root cause of all personal problems.
All your personal struggles boil down to the single cause: a faulty self-esteem.
The lower the esteem, the more fearful you become. It permeates in all areas: learning (all growing involves risk), school or job performance, [...]
Habit: A recurrent, often unconscious pattern of behavior that is acquired through frequent repetition. — Answers.com
So we’re all creatures of habits. We get used to doing certain things in certain ways, and allow our minds and bodies to not only be accustomed to the same pattern, but expect and yearn for it.
This is [...]
To grow old is to acquire fear.
When we are born, we are fearless. Well, mostly. There are some instinctive fears.
But most of the fears, we gain over the course of our lives.
And that’s a good mechanism, for our survival. If you do something once and get hurt, you don’t do it again. [...]
I am currently reading Timothy Ferriss’ The 4-Hour Workweek. I’m going to reserve my opinion on the value of the book overall, but there have been little lessons that are immediately applicable to my life. He has several tips on maximizing your effectiveness and productivity by minimizing distractions and setting yourself up with really [...]
We make decisions constantly, including decisions to not to make decisions and postponing. We often fail to make the best decisions because we don’t pay attention to our state of mind, and how it affects our perceptions and decision-making process.
There are several versions of you in there. Which one are you, right [...]
