Note: this is a summary version of a longer essay.
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The basis of all desires is to be who you are.
All the things you do out of desire is an extension of your fundamental desire to be Who-You-Are. Everything from the choice of your vehicle to who you hang out with to what you wear, [...]
Here is an essay on understanding the core of our desires, and an observation on what it means to grow.
In a hurry? Read the digest version.
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So far, I established that living a fulfilling life is one’s ultimate goal, and the way to do it is to focus on the path.
To be fulfilled on [...]
In our result-driven society, we are told to set goals in order to be effective. While goals have tremendous potential to improve your productivity, but focusing solely on results and outcomes also have potential for creating anxiety, overwhelmingness and failure. In this first chapter of a 4-part series, I identify 7 reasons why [...]
Note: this is the digest version of the extended essay analyzing how self-esteem is the root cause of all personal problems.
All your personal struggles boil down to the single cause: a faulty self-esteem.
The lower the esteem, the more fearful you become. It permeates in all areas: learning (all growing involves risk), school or job performance, [...]
In this extended essay on self-esteem, you will get a comprehensive picture of what it is, how it gets compromised, and how you can restore it. Low self-esteem is the underlying cause for all problems in your life — understanding this will pave the way to true and complete healing and unlocking your true [...]
One of the games I play with my 4-year-old is a memory game.
You know, the one where you lay a bunch of cards facing down, and take turns turning two at a time, trying to find a match.
Every time I play that game, I think to myself, ah, this is how life is.
Think about it. [...]
In Japan, we have a phrase called “Seishin Nenrei.”
It means: “mental age.”
It simply means that our mental age may be different from our physical age.
I’m surprised that it’s not a widely accepted idea in US. It may be because of my cultural background, but the concept seems very obvious to me.
I’m sure you’ve seen “adult [...]
This article is specifically for those who are in a long-term romantic relationship, and is wondering if you’ve found your “soulmate” — the person to spend the rest of your life with. A lot of fear and trepidation goes into that consideration. These guidelines can cut through the haze and help you figure [...]
In this little visualization exercise, you’ll explore an idealistic hypothetical situation, which will free your mind from the grinds of daily life and the reality of having to earn a living, to explore what you really want to spend your life doing. It will get you started down the path of finding and pursuing [...]
We make decisions constantly, including decisions to not to make decisions and postponing. We often fail to make the best decisions because we don’t pay attention to our state of mind, and how it affects our perceptions and decision-making process.
There are several versions of you in there. Which one are you, right [...]
