In any journey, it’s nice to have a map. Healing and growth is no exception. In this essay I employ a system of classifying your emotions, to help you see where you are in your journey and what’s next in your evolution.
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Elsewhere, I defined [...]
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The basis of all desires is to be who you are.
All the things you do out of desire is an extension of your fundamental desire to be Who-You-Are. Everything from the choice of your vehicle to who you hang out with to what you wear, [...]
Here is an essay on understanding the core of our desires, and an observation on what it means to grow.
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So far, I established that living a fulfilling life is one’s ultimate goal, and the way to do it is to focus on the path.
To be fulfilled on [...]
My 1-year-old son, Noah, has always been an eater. From the moment he realized that he could put solid food into his mouth and chew (lack of teeth was a minute detail for him), he would bang on his high-chair tray, demanding more solid food. My wife and I were always astounded by [...]
Failures and mistakes bum us out. It’s worse when you know it’s your own fault.
How do you react?
Do you beat yourself up?
I know I used to. I would punish myself for mistakes. I would take away treats and rewards, saying “You don’t deserve that, Ari.”
It’s as if I was training myself like Pavlov’s dog.
But nowadays, [...]
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“Do what you love to do.” I’m sure you’ve read it before.
But do you really feel like it?
If not, that doesn’t mean that you are lazy or coward. It simply means you are too depleted [...]
Here’s an examination of a situation when one can’t even do what he/she loves. And talking about solutions and rewarding activities leave you overwhelmed and unmotivated. It turns out that you have to first make room in your life, before you can invite goodness to come in.
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When we think of what makes life fun, we tend to think of activities like traveling, eating good food or spending time with family/friends. I am not about to dispute that. But there’s something bigger and [...]
In this essay, I examine one of the greatest sources of joy and fulfillment, one which is seldom identified correctly and brought into open. That’s because many people are not in a place to be able to tap into it, so they fail to recognize it for what it is. But when you get [...]
It’s another one of Covey-isms, but as widely accepted as the concept is, I am afraid many of us simply don’t get it.
To create an outcome, you need to create it twice: first in your mind, and then in the physical world.
Many of us are troubleshooters, problem solvers. We get caught up in solving problems [...]
