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We often talk about growth as not easy. Here, I’d like to share how that’s been true in my journey.
The challenge of growing is that you have to constantly reinvent yourself. I’m sure you’ve had experience where [...]
This is an observation I made on what it means to grow. If you think growing = getting bigger, then my take on it may surprise you. To fully appreciate this post, please refer to the post: How to Climb Up the Ladder of Healing and Growth.
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I know that [...]
Well, unfortunately I didn’t know about the Blog Action Day until today, so I didn’t have a lot of time to carefully compose my posts. So I’m going to pull out my spontaneous voice.
When I learned of the theme, two thoughts popped into my mind. They are:
1. Let’s think of solutions
True, solutions cannot [...]
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Continuing my exploration of our emotional nature, I am expanding upon a system defined by Elisabeth and Jerry Hicks from their book “Ask and It Is Given.” It is called Emotional Guidance Scale.
This is an excellent tool in assessing where you are and figure out [...]
In any journey, it’s nice to have a map. Healing and growth is no exception. In this essay I employ a system of classifying your emotions, to help you see where you are in your journey and what’s next in your evolution.
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Elsewhere, I defined [...]
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The basis of all desires is to be who you are.
All the things you do out of desire is an extension of your fundamental desire to be Who-You-Are. Everything from the choice of your vehicle to who you hang out with to what you wear, [...]
Here is an essay on understanding the core of our desires, and an observation on what it means to grow.
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So far, I established that living a fulfilling life is one’s ultimate goal, and the way to do it is to focus on the path.
To be fulfilled on [...]
My 1-year-old son, Noah, has always been an eater. From the moment he realized that he could put solid food into his mouth and chew (lack of teeth was a minute detail for him), he would bang on his high-chair tray, demanding more solid food. My wife and I were always astounded by [...]
Failures and mistakes bum us out. It’s worse when you know it’s your own fault.
How do you react?
Do you beat yourself up?
I know I used to. I would punish myself for mistakes. I would take away treats and rewards, saying “You don’t deserve that, Ari.”
It’s as if I was training myself like Pavlov’s dog.
But nowadays, [...]
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“Do what you love to do.” I’m sure you’ve read it before.
But do you really feel like it?
If not, that doesn’t mean that you are lazy or coward. It simply means you are too depleted [...]
